The Hugs and Kisses Method of Finances

Money. It can be a love-hate relationship. Am I right? Sometimes, especially with the ones we love, it can be the thing we fight about most. However, incorporating hugs and kisses into your life will change things dramatically.  This week I'm going to show you how.

My mentor, Jim White, shared with me that incorporating hugs and kisses in the discussion can change everything. When sitting with clients of his, the clients looked through everything and tried to discuss how they were going to reach their goals. Hearing the dynamic between husband and wife, Jim couldn’t help but ask, “When was the last time you hugged one another?” They couldn’t answer; they didn’t remember. He responded, “Do it now, then!” And, when they did, it put an action step in place!

Keep It Above the Waist!

Every day, take thirty seconds and give one another a non-sexual hug. Embrace. Connect with one another. In fact, some of the behaviors and math that need to take place happen when you are in sync. If you are fighting with your spouse and feeling tension because you are not on the same page, just take some time to hug. It may sound all touchy-feely, but there is truth and science behind it because you are connecting the heart and the brain. 

What Would It Feel Like to Be on the Same Page as Your Spouse with Money?

So often we are caught in the hustle and bustle of life and we don’t connect or remember why we are doing this. Sometimes just a simple hug says, “We are going to get through this. We are going to figure this out.” Saying those words while hugging doesn't hurt either!  Remember why you are doing this in the first place and be careful to not lose each other in the process.  Staying connected is vital.

K.I.S.S. – Keep It Simple, Student!

One of things I most commonly see is people trying to do too much financially because they have been told by the culture and the media that they need to do this, this, and this all at the same time. Keep it simple, student!  Pick one goal you are going to work on and give it all your attention. If you need accountability to do that, I am here to help you stay on track. Sometimes the K.I.S.S. method comes down to just keeping things basic.  Here's an example – have 3 bank accounts: a joint checking, an emergency savings, and a regular savings account. That’s what I have. Keep it simple; keep it streamlined. The more complicated you conduct your finances, the less likely you are to keep up with them. Most of us don’t like to get in there with all the numbers. It’s not about the math; it’s about behavior. Give hugs! K.I.S.S.!   If you have made it too complicated on yourself and want help making it simple and prioritized, contact me so that we can collectively work towards this goal of keeping it simple and keeping your wallet heavy and your heart light.  

Question: How do you plan on improving communication with your spouse about money this week?  Share in the comments below!